• FireRetardant@lemmy.world
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    9 months ago

    “I want to be with you forever” makes me feel a lot more secure, comfortable and hopeful than “when this isn’t fun anymore I’m off”.

    Everyone knows that “be with you forever” is a feeling, not a fact but it gives me a good idea of where my partner is in the relationship. My partner saying “once it isnt fun I’m out” makes me feel like I’m just a hobby, not a partner.

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      9 months ago

      “be with you forever“ is a feeling

      Yeah, it’s called obsession. Romantic love is very toxic, but it’s ideologically enforced into people at a very young age. Asking toddlers to confess to adults whom they like and with whom they want to marry when they grow up and similar performative acts, for example. The characters in the comic are acknowledging their humanity, instead of denying themselves with a pretension of immortality or infinitude to their human feelings. Lots of people who say “I will be with you forever” end up cheating or abandoning their partners anyways. Humans are neither immortal nor infinite, it’s immature and irresponsible to promise either.

      Not to invalidate or guess how you think or feel, but that negative interpretation oozes insecurity and fear.

      Or in the words of Oscar Wilde: “When one is in love, one always begins by deceiving one’s self, and one always ends by deceiving others. That is what the world calls a romance.” Romantic love is lying.