Example, Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
I hate this for the obvious reasons but it’s especially annoying to me because my wife didn’t take my surname!
It’s especially irritating when it’s something like a wedding invitation, they should know you well enough to get it right! Often that comes down to some old fuddy-duddy’s misogyny.
Even if she had taken your surname, she still has her own first name, not John!
It is the most correct way. Even if she didn’t take your name, and even if your not married, she is your Mrs. Not sure why this would be infuriating, it’s the language.
Edit: honesty, the replies below are sexist and masogonistic. Yes, the women that you married is your Mrs, it’s the definition of the word. And likewise the man that you married is your Mr, for the same reason. It does not matter whether either party changes their name, it applies either way.
To suggest that marriage is ownership rather than partnership is disgusting, you should be ashamed of yourselves. Did slaves get referred to as Mrs. (slave owner)? No, they did not. Your suggestion is entirely inappropriate, and takes away from the reality that slaves had to live with. Disgusting misappropriation!
Grow up people, you can’t change the language to reflect your personal biases, insecurities and misunderstandings.
That’s a little sexist, don’t you think?
Absolutely not, it applies in either direction, universally. I am Mr (wife) (wife’s maiden name), this is how the language works. Why is this offensive to YOU?
That’s not how language works, that’s how culture works. Mrs and mr are referred to you, not relatively to your spouse. I am Mr John Smith, even if I’m married to Mrs Amy White. Amy is not Mrs Smith and John is not Mrs White. They are Mr Smith and Mrs White. In the usa for some reason it’s custom that the woman changes surname to that of his husband, in many other places it was like that in the past but ia not anymore
My wife isn’t my property
Absolutely disgusting rhetoric you are pushing. My wife is my partner, and vice versa. The prefix works in both directions, with either my surname or my wife’s surname, or even my wife’s maiden name. You are whitewashing slavery with you comment and should be ashamed of yourself!
This is a question of culture, not language.
Absolutely wrong, this is how the language works. I am my wife’s Mr as well, even with her maiden name.
Then it should be just as ok to use the woman’s name as the man’s, right?
Yes, it is actually!
They do that so that legally your wife can open the advertisement. They don’t and you wanted to be a loser, you could report her for tampering with your mail. I’m not sure what the postal investigator would do. “Knock it off and call a divorce lawyer” might feature somewhere in the possibilities.
In any case they’re just pulling names off a list some where. They assume you’re married and in a typical cis relationship.
Same reason they add “or current residents” as well.
They want it read, they don’t care if it’s you or your wife or the luchador that’s randomly moved in with you.
or the luchador that’s randomly moved in with you
I knew something was different!
