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I think you have identified some small truth, but have made an error in narrowing the scope of where the deficiency actually lies to the individual/group. Exceptions can imply deficiency (among other things) but I would argue that said deficiencies often are in how these groups are treated by society and not inherent to the groups or individuals themselves.
I’m going to use calculus as an example, since there are plenty of reasons you’d expect someone to not be able to do calculus. If you’re sufficiently young, maybe you don’t have the complex reasoning skills to understand calculus (deficiency, but not permanent). If you’re an adult without a math education, would your inability to do calculus be considered a deficiency, or just a lack of opportunity which can be fixed through assistance? If you have been told your kind of person would suck at doing calculus but you really want to learn, and are performing worse than your peers who are told they are good at this naturally, is that a deficiency in the individual or the system they live in? If you have to work more than one job to keep your family housed and don’t have time for calculus, if you are targeted for police violence, if you’re discriminated against by even the most well-meaning people with authority over you, you could be the most brilliant mathematician and it wouldn’t matter- society at large is failing you.
When you’re talking about “exception” here, I think what is really happening is people taking measures to level the playing field for people who have experienced discrimination. In a perfect world with no individual or systemic discrimination, current or historical, these sorts of “exceptions” wouldn’t be necessary! But that’s not the world we live in. The first step to making a more equitable society is recognizing where people got shafted historically and what affect that still has on society today. Getting the short end of the historical stick does not imply immutable qualities about a group of people today.
So, no, I don’t think that giving exceptions to people who need them most inherently implies that they are individually or categorically deficit.
He looks sweet!
I’d bet it’s because sugar is still calories even if you can’t taste it. So, filler
Not sure what the distinction is, but, do consider trying this out next time you feel someone is getting frustrated! See if you get a better result. As someone who struggled with this, it can be very empowering to find the “right words” for a situation where you feel like you’re doing poorly.
I had some really helpful advice with this, especially in a professional setting: instead of apologizing, thank the other person instead.
People like getting thanked a lot more than they like hearing “sorry” every 5 minutes.
I didn’t get a chance to watch Jon Oliver’s but I would assume so! I wouldn’t be afraid to watch this one at least, nothing really surprising in it.
I’d say it’s perfectly watchable and low in the bad takes department, at the result of kind of just stating the obvious (ceasefire now). A couple of things my leftist heart disagreed with, but generally in the “which solution is actually the most viable” sense and not the “we disagree about if 30,000+ people deserve to live” sense.
Safety tip, do not let anyone blow air up your vagina, even if they say they are God!! That’s how you get a pulmonary embolism. Or immaculate conception.
I think it’s also a smidge less likely in the sense that the data would have to be accessed/scraped from many different instances, as opposed to the sort of bulk data reddit seems to be selling. So I’d say protection from AI is much the same as lock protection. Someone can almost always pick the lock, but if you deter folks they’ll look for easier targets. If you want to ensure none of your words are used by AI, post nothing.
Just a headline suggestion, “beaten” and “beaten to death” are vastly different!
This is a general frustration, so not at all about you specifically, but: we can’t keep condemning a whole state for the actions of their shitty government, even in a “haha West Virginia is full of republican hicks” or “can someone saw Florida off the mainland like Bugs Bunny already” or “Texas can just secede if they want, I don’t care”.
Painting these entire states by the brush of their elected government lowers our empathy for the people there, and that includes the people who didn’t vote for these gerrymandered fucks, children who are affected by these policies without their input, and people who can’t leave even if they wanted to. Those are real people who deserve to have things like libraries and the chance to escape poverty.
When we oppose policy decisions like this, we can’t leave behind people who agree with us but are in terrible circumstances that they have no control over. Statistically the people who are going to make the West Virginia state government any better are already living there, and we need to be in community with them rather than pushing them away.
I love how easily you can make friends with chickadees! They’re brave little guys.
What side of this story could justify beating up an old man until he can’t speak?
Hey OP, can you elaborate on the context for which you are looking to talk about the queer community? I think that matters a bit. There are more formal and more casual descriptions that I do think are important to discuss the differences of use.
For instance, Gender and Sexual Minorities or GSM is probably the most formal you can go with. This might be appropriate for corporate DEI, but you will get absolutely roasted on social media if you refer to gay people that way. (It’s very clinical, not really something the community uses, but it’s a wide umbrella)
LGBT(QIA+) is a little old school nowadays, a mouthful, and always feels a bit like you’re always going to be missing some letters. If a cishet ally used any variety this, I’m not going to be offended and I’d appreciate that they’re trying- it’s clear that the intention is there and it’s better to signal support imperfectly that be silent imo. This one usually comes up most frequently around Pride Month as there’s a lot more visibility on our community from those who are not in it.
The queer community is probably your best all-purpose use but may not work 100% in formal situations as “queer” has historically been a pejorative. Boomers tend to look at you funny when you use it, and some younger folks who don’t think that slurs can ever be reclaimed can sometimes be put off as well. That said, it’s probably what the majority of the community uses as an umbrella term. This is the one I’d use when chatting with friends. “Gay” can also be used as a substitute for “queer” in this context as many folks will also use that as an umbrella term, but this can be confused with discussing just gay men, so you may have to know your audience.
I had a presumed cishet friend in high school who just used “homosexual”. I wouldn’t recommend. All of the formality of GSM, none of the inclusion.
Other things I would not recommend: alphabet mafia (unless you’re on tiktok), anything that is still generally considered a slur (some folks are reclaiming the f-slur, t-slur and d-slur but I would consider that a deeply personal choice of self expression and not something for cishet folks to use at this time, unless personally invited to use to describe only that person), and lastly, using any of these broad identifiers to refer to specific people who have shared their specific label with you (ie don’t call someone a queer woman when they have told you they identify as bisexual, or a queer man if they said they are a trans man, etc. Some people do identify as queer though, so if they have said as much you can use that specifically then).
That’s a lot of minutia but I think the important thing is, the community generally knows when you are trying your best. Even if you accidentally offend someone, just asking what they would like to be referred to in the future is probably all you need to worry about.
I think there are ways OP can use queer respectfully, and there are ways they may accidentally slip into something that can sound homophobic, so, tread with caution. “The queer community” is fine, that reads to me with the same respect as “queer theory” in an academic setting. “The queers” =homophobic (unless you are part of that community and are being ironic), “are you queer?” =also bad, “my queer colleague” =not good unless that is the specific label they identify with, etc.
Alphabet mafia is best left to the Gen Z kids on TikTok, even as one of them queers myself I’d never use that in a serious setting.
The thing is, Republicans here don’t actually want to escalate, or at least the Republican politicians. They want to scream loudly that whatever Biden does is hurting them, their constituents, and the country, whether it’s “weak” inaction or authoritarian action. It is an election year after all.
Will the radicalized, bloodthirsty Republican population escalate though? That’s maybe more likely. I’d be more concerned for violence as a minority in these states than as the National Guard.
Y’know, it’s funny, the Dursleys are canonically like 25 in this scene at most
This comments section seems to be suffering from the “I like pancakes” “oh so you hate waffles?” disease. I don’t think you need to disclaimer “use painkillers responsibly” OP, it goes without saying.
It looks to me like hate sex and sex robots got switched accidentally