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Cake day: August 18th, 2023
  • rivvvver@lemmy.dbzer0.comto196@lemmy.blahaj.zone•Red and Black Rule
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    4 months ago

    I’m just sick of bi erasure in queer communities, being belittled by being called “half gay, half straight”. Or even “oh you’re just a cishet who wants to fit into queer spaces”.
    No. I am bi. Not half this, half that, not pretending.

    im sorry you had to experience that and i agree with you there.

    bisexuality is its own thing and should be understood as such, not written off as a combination of two other sexualities and nothing more (and even so, claiming that ppl in queer spaces are just “pretending” is ofc incredibly harmful to everyone).

    having said that, bisexuality is often (imo incorrectly) defined as being attracted to men and women. which excludes nonbinary ppl, even tho many bisexuals are also attracted to ppl outside of the binary genders.

    so i think in this context, its comforting for me to think of the bi- in bisexual as meaning homo- & heterosexual (nb inclusive), rather than men & women attraction.

    however as i said, this should not be used to understand bisexuality beyond just a surface-level and should never be used to discriminate or make judgements on someones “queerness”.

    I genuinely did not know about people who define themselves as non-binary men or women, could you help me understand?

    so theres many different nonbinary genders ofc (its a spectrum so technically… infinite?).

    i identify as a demi-girl, which is someone who identifies as a woman, but not strongly enough to be considered fully on the binary side of it. perhaps it helps to visualize it on a spectrum with binary men on one side and binary women on the other. demigenders would be sort of, half-way between the center and one of the ends. making them non-binary but also perhaps more of one binary gender than the other.

    hope this helps as just an idea. please keep in mind tho that this ofc doesnt fit for everyone who identifies as demigender, its just my understanding of it for myself.

  • rivvvver@lemmy.dbzer0.comto196@lemmy.blahaj.zone•Red and Black Rule
    3·
    4 months ago

    I as a man can only be heterosexual if I exclusively am attracted to women.

    “homo-” means same or similar. “hetero-” means different or other.

    i am not usually the kind who immediately cites definitions of words, however in this case, this is how the prefix is used and understood all over the scientific world https://www.etymonline.com/word/hetero-

    your definition of heterosexuality is very unusual to me and as a bisexual nonbinary woman, it definitely does not fit for me.

    im curious tho, do heterosexual nonbinary ppl exist in your definition here? or is that mutually exclusive? and whats the equivalent of nonbinary ppl who arent attracted to other ppl of their own gender but only those of a different gender?

    lastly,

    And enbies are not women, even if AFAB. They are neither man nor woman, that’s what makes them non-binary, that’s the point.

    nonbinary men and women exist and are valid gender identities.

  • rivvvver@lemmy.dbzer0.comtoComic Strips@lemmy.world•Climate Summit
    2·
    5 months ago

    i think the “we wanted it, so we made it so” implies this is some inherently human thing.

    i see it all too often unfortunately, that ppl just think human do bad, therefore human is bad and theres no changing it. we should murder a large chunk of the population or just go extinct entirely.

    as if those were the only “solutions” there could ever be.

  • rivvvver@lemmy.dbzer0.comtoComic Strips@lemmy.world•Climate Summit
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    5 months ago

    its nicely written, but i think ur wrong abt some of these points.

    We wanted to eat large amounts of meat every day. We wanted to travel across the world. […] We wanted to have our own personal tanks to drive around in perfect comfort, to use as we wish, to go as we wish. But we wanted it, so we made it so.

    Most of this stuff only got popular bc of mass advertising. For example, the idea that bacon & egg makes a good, healthy breakfast was made up and marketed by paying doctors to say its true (look into Edward Bernays). This ofc helped the meat industry sell their dead animals to more ppl. and yet nearly 50% of our food produce is thrown away bc it couldnt be sold. why do they produce so much??

    SUVs were heavily marketed to ppl in the US bc theyre classified as “light trucks”, making them not subject to “cafe” (corporate average fuel economy) standards in the US and were therefore cheaper to produce and sell. Look into what cars are around in europe today; most of them are still small, efficient, and safe.

    the real issue of this is that corporations have a need to make more money every year. it all needs to keep growing to please their shareholders.

    this means more aggressive advertising; more shit nobody really needs has to be sold to those who can barely afford it bc we need to be paid less for them to make more.

    capitalism is the real problem here. and it needs to stop. we need an economic system thats based on ppls necessities, not on making the most money (selling the most stuff).