• TORFdot0@lemmy.world
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    1. You shouldn’t really bully anyone autistic or not
    2. Don’t mistake someone trying to encourage positive behavior as bully. Just because you have one of these behaviors doesn’t mean you correctly self-diagnosed yourself with autism either
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      Positive according to whom? What’s positive for you may be destructive for me.

      • StitchIsABitch@lemmy.world
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        Encouraging someone to do something doesn’t mean them not doing it is bad. I can encourage you to try mayo instead of ketchup on your fries, without implying that you’re an asshole for eating your fries with ketchup. Also, I’m pretty sure me saying “maybe you’d like fries with mayo if you tried it” isn’t bullying. I faced a lot of these issues when I was younger, and while I don’t think it works like that for everyone, I genuinely got over a bunch of them by just forcing myself to confront them.

        The point stands that people should be less self-centred when it comes to what’s ‘normal’, but some of the examples in the tweet come off as (ironically) quite judgemental.

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          Also, I’m pretty sure me saying “maybe you’d like fries with mayo if you tried it” isn’t bullying

          It is kind of dehumanizing though, because who over the age of fifteen hasn’t yet experimented with various french fry sauces?

          The presupposition here is that they didn’t try it.

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        Meltdowns often include bad behavior. If your meltdown includes slamming a door, cursing at someone, yelling in an inappropriate setting, disparaging someone else’s preferences, choices, or lifestyle: that’s bad behavior and someone calling that out, or excluding you from activities due to those behaviors isn’t bullying no matter if that behavior can be explained by autism or not.

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        None of them are exactly bad behaviors. Just encouraging trying new things and effective self regulation as positive behaviors, is my point