Feel that all dating apps nowadays are an absolute scam so curious if anyone here has actually had any success with dating apps and if so what app what is it?

  • SirDankbud@lemmy.ca
    101·
    8 months ago

    Dating apps work fine if you know how to date. Met my wife on PoF. Never had any issues getting dates on any of the programs and I’m a 5/10 at best.

    If you have a very unique profile and provide thoughtful engagement to potential dates, you will find a partner eventually. I know it can feel like a slog sometimes, but it’s still a lot less bullshit than you’d get dating random strangers the old way.

    • Trainguyrom@reddthat.comEnglish
      1·
      8 months ago

      Met my wife on PoF as well about 7 years ago. Definitely a slog but I also now know that at the time I was a walking red flag factory

    • Mamertine@lemmy.world
      11·
      8 months ago

      This!

      You get what you put in.

      If you made a basic profile and your messages are all “Hi” or “hi, you’re cute”

      You’re not getting dates.

      If you curate a profile with good content, good photos and send messages that prove that you read their profile you’ll get responses. You’ll never get a message back for every message your send. 10% is a good response rate.

      It’s a skill to do all of those things, it’s okay ask for help on those things. Sit down with a trusted friend either a woman that’s of that age, or a man that gets dates from an app.

      Then, the next skill is turning messages into meetings IRL.

      Then after that is turning dates into a relationship.