It’s a bit annoying seeing people in nearly dead Lemmy communities who are like “oohh, sorry for flooding the community”…
Anyway, I really feel this meme. Been going through tough things recently and it’s been hard figuring out how much I should burden my online friends with it…
If they’re friends, it’s not burdening. Light acquaintances get burdening. They’re not important.
Better to have no “friends” at all than investing time in people whom you’re not important enough to. IMHO.
As someone with many online friends of various communication styles I can confidently say there are only really two things that ever got annoying (outside of technical glitches that weren’t the fault of anyone involved in the conversation).
One is when someone clearly wants to talk with me but answers anything I try as a topic with some closed response that doesn’t allow further elaboration or follow-up questions so I have to constantly think of something new to talk about.
The other is when someone is clearly too busy to talk but doesn’t just say something like “lets talk later” or “sorry, I am doing x, my responses might be slow” but instead answers painfully slowly without any explanation on why. Answering hours later is fine, answering with about 5-15 minute delays every single time without explanation is what I would consider painfully slowly; not short enough to focus on the conversation, not long enough to focus on something else. And I stress the “without explanation” part since an actual explanation like “I am playing x” or “My family is distracting me, semi-afk” is fine and takes away the annoyance factor for me.
Never have I been annoyed at a friend sharing personal issues or just a lot of information on a topic they are passionate about. At worst I might have to say that I have limited time available right then and might respond later when work or similar RL issues require me to focus on something else.
It’s a bit annoying seeing people in nearly dead Lemmy communities who are like “oohh, sorry for flooding the community”…
Anyway, I really feel this meme. Been going through tough things recently and it’s been hard figuring out how much I should burden my online friends with it…
If they’re friends, it’s not burdening. Light acquaintances get burdening. They’re not important. Better to have no “friends” at all than investing time in people whom you’re not important enough to. IMHO.
As someone with many online friends of various communication styles I can confidently say there are only really two things that ever got annoying (outside of technical glitches that weren’t the fault of anyone involved in the conversation).
One is when someone clearly wants to talk with me but answers anything I try as a topic with some closed response that doesn’t allow further elaboration or follow-up questions so I have to constantly think of something new to talk about.
The other is when someone is clearly too busy to talk but doesn’t just say something like “lets talk later” or “sorry, I am doing x, my responses might be slow” but instead answers painfully slowly without any explanation on why. Answering hours later is fine, answering with about 5-15 minute delays every single time without explanation is what I would consider painfully slowly; not short enough to focus on the conversation, not long enough to focus on something else. And I stress the “without explanation” part since an actual explanation like “I am playing x” or “My family is distracting me, semi-afk” is fine and takes away the annoyance factor for me.
Never have I been annoyed at a friend sharing personal issues or just a lot of information on a topic they are passionate about. At worst I might have to say that I have limited time available right then and might respond later when work or similar RL issues require me to focus on something else.