• cokeslutgarbage@lemmy.world
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    5 months ago

    My mother was the abuser in my home. She abused me and my father. That fact doesn’t prevent me from knowing that men are statistically more likely to be the aggressor. I don’t know what I’m trying to say with this comment. Life is scary and hard enough. May we all only share and receive kindness.

    Xx love you.

    • ThePowerOfGeek@lemmy.world
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      5 months ago

      I assumed you said that (about how men are far more likely to be abusers) to try to mitigate any reactions that take your very reasonable comment out of context. Any time someone points out that abuse or injustice can happen from the non-typical side of a binary situation, someone inevitably jumps in with a “well achually…” response. Sometimes it’s said with the best of intentions. Sometimes it’s just trolling our pushing a personal bias.

      I disagree with others who say you are perpetuating something negative by saying that. That’s clearly not what you are doing. You are just trying to provide a preemptive response to an inevitable counterpoint. Your overall point was well-made and reinforces the tragic but insightful story behind this post.

      I hope you and your dad have found peace and happiness away from your abusive mom.

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        5 months ago

        It’s because you can’t say or do anything in regards to this issue without attracting people that have an agenda that has nothing to do with helping men but is simply anti-feminist.

        I’ve read plenty of times online how people don’t even look for help because they were convinced online that help for men does not exist. But it does and it should be spread instead of people trying to persuade people it doesn’t exist just because they want to spread their ideology.

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      5 months ago

      May we all only share and receive kindness.

      Well said, @cokeslutgarbage

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      5 months ago

      I think I interpret what you are saying as that you’re aware women likely need more help, but so do men, and we shouldn’t assume the smaller one doesn’t exist or ignore them because that group creates more issues than they have victims.

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      5 months ago

      I don’t know what I’m trying to say with this comment

      That despite being actual victim of abuse, and further witnessing your father be a victim of abuse, You still try to push the narrative that women are the only real victims and the only ones deserving of support.

      and I dont say this to be mean, or snarky, or cruel to you. You’ve just got to realize how internalized you’ve got this shit.

    • brbposting@sh.itjust.works
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      5 months ago

      So sorry to hear that.

      I read:

      1 - men absolutely get abused

      2 - we don’t need to entirely eliminate any of the existing narrative that women have it rough [but let’s add abuse of men to the picture]

      No notes besides sending some love back, brother.

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      5 months ago

      That is very kind of you, cokeslutgarbage. Not my business but anyway: this may be the moment when a username deserves to be changed.