• Llabyrinthine@aussie.zone
      7·
      3 months ago

      It can be so hard, but maybe it can be seen as an opportunity to reconnect? Heat of the moment things can be painful and but sometimes we need to look past them. Small things over time become bigger things. We all want feel seen, heard and validated and beyond that see actual lasting change or improvement. Hope you can come to each other with kindness.

    • TinyBreak@aussie.zone
      6·
      3 months ago

      Bro I absolutely know those feels. Last couple of big fights its gotten to the point where I’ve started to suggest we get some professional help. Take some time, take some deep breaths, but just know this is all normal.

    • SpinMeAround@aussie.zone
      6·
      3 months ago

      Hopefully with some good communication, you guys can make some decisions that will suit you both - no matter what way it goes. Be kind to yourself today!

  • TinyBreak@aussie.zone
    13·
    3 months ago

    so its been a week. Had to take kid to emergency yesterday. Hes been released and fine now, just a bunch of viruses running rampant on him but the MCH and GP both said “yeah, lets get the hospital to check him out”. I thought I kept my cool under pressure pretty well, but came home last night got him to bed and just kind collapsed on the couch like “holly fucking shit that was one of the hardest days of my life”.

    It comes very close to the 12 month anniversary of the LAST hardest days of my life that also involve a him and a hospital. So if we made a year before taking him to the hospital we’ve done pretty well. Shout out to the MCH Hotline, the GP and the Monash health staff. All were simply amazing.

    • Eagle@aussie.zone
      10·
      3 months ago

      It’s important to recognise how exhausting kids are, especially when they’re sick and needing that extra hospital help. We get so caught up with keeping up that we forget it’s okay to stop and rest, so enjoy that couch time.

    • PeelerSheila @aussie.zone
      1·
      3 months ago

      There seem to be some shocking viruses going round lately, I’m glad he’s ok. It’s hard when kids are sick, it’s exhausting and also mentally fatiguing.

  • Nath@aussie.zone
    11·
    3 months ago

    Gah! I just remembered, went and made it and then realized I was beaten.

    I should look into automating these.

  • Alamutjones@aussie.zone
    11·
    3 months ago

    When working from home, is it acceptable to work in your jammies?

    I’m wide awake, but I’m really comfy

  • MeanElevator@aussie.zoneEnglish
    9·
    3 months ago

    Tried something novel last night. Went to bed without the aid of electronics. Phone went on the charger and my head hit the pillow. 8 hours of sleep later, I feel fantabulous.

      • MeanElevator@aussie.zoneEnglish
        3·
        3 months ago

        I have my moments, but generally when I go to bed I’m not sleepy enough. Just need to push through on the couch before going to bed I guess.

        • melbourne_wanderer@aussie.zone
          3·
          3 months ago

          I have been trying to go to bed at roughly the same time each night, regardless of how tired/sleepy I feel.

          I have found that it actually does help with getting to sleep: even if I think I’m not tired when I go to bed, I actually fall asleep quite quickly.

          • MeanElevator@aussie.zoneEnglish
            3·
            3 months ago

            My struggle is with falling asleep when only mildly sleepy. One little mental jolt and I’m awake again.

            Generally I’m in bed between 11-11:30 but some days that gets pushed out past midnight.

        • just_kitten@aussie.zone
          1·
          3 months ago

          This is exactly it. I toss and turn and can’t settle my brain even if I’m physically tired. Like I need to be numbed. I could at least try a book and not be on my phone.

          I chalked it up to living an alarmingly sedentary life but it seems like that’s not all.

    • PeelerSheila @aussie.zone
      2·
      3 months ago

      Do you even lift, bro?

      Seriously though, they are surprisingly tall. I remember going out the back after dark when I lived in regional Vic and almost walked straight into a big fella like this (I’m only about 168cm tall and it was clearly and obviously much taller than me!) We stared at each other in silence for a moment, and it just had that strangely expressionless look that they have, before I very slowly and with no sudden movement backed back into the house and closed the door, resolving to never go out the back after dark ever again.

  • Gibsonisafluffybutt@aussie.zone
    9·
    3 months ago

    An evening of video games and music I think. Tomorrow night is an emo event which should be fun.

    Also, am desperate for a shitty Domino’s pizza but am sticking to my chicken and veggies dinner.

  • Bottom_racer@aussie.zone
    8·
    3 months ago

    About 1/3rd of the way through making the chilli dust. Wore gloves as per Seagoons very sage advice and it went through them heh.

    For the next 2/3rds I will double glove, and wear an N95… and goggles.

    This morning was brutal.

      • Bottom_racer@aussie.zone
        2·
        3 months ago

        ooh nice.

        I’ve also read that putting bananas and apples in the bowl is a thing too but I’m not sure if that actually works.

        • Thornburywitch@aussie.zoneEnglish
          4·
          3 months ago

          Only if you enclose the whole bowl in a paper or plastic bag. The apples/banana gives of ethylene gas which ripens the other stuff. Same as colesworth does in its warehouse when it wants to sell us ‘ripe’ fruit.

          • Bottom_racer@aussie.zone
            2·
            3 months ago

            colesworth does in its warehouse when it wants to sell us ‘ripe’ fruit.

            TIL that’s unsurprisingly naughty.

  • melbourne_wanderer@aussie.zone
    8·
    3 months ago

    haaa. one group’s email lists at work have buggered up, and they’ve been emailing the entire organisation (thousands of people) instead of just the people on their lists. We have been receiving weird, random emails for a couple of days, and they have just figured it out…

  • Seagoon_@aussie.zoneOP
    7·
    3 months ago

    I’m getting yt recommendations on how to be an elegant and chic older woman.

    Seems I should only wear red nails and lips, never wear anything but simple hoops and studs, no long hair , no dyed hair, no fun clothes, only classics, lots of gold, beige, sailor stripes and be very very thin

    If there is no room for my mushroom pants and matching earrings or totoros on my finger nails or bag I’d rather not be chic

    well, chic for when it calls for it, otherwise, I’m a carlton/brunnie girl

  • useless_modern_god@aussie.zone
    7·
    3 months ago

    The story so far: in the beginning, the universe was created.

    This has made a lot of people very angry and been widely regarded as a bad move.

  • imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone
    7·
    3 months ago

    Hoped to get done with work early but the shite hit the fan so I’m working back to clean up. luckily I’m WFH today so I have poured a glass of wine and opened a packet of chippies to see me through. cheers 🥂

    wine /alcohol talk

    Also shout out to tread softly wine ~10-15 bucks a bottle, low preservative (one of the few that doesn’t leave me with a head ache) and slightly lower alcohol. They do a couple that are about half strength too which is good if you want a wine but without the wine headache. I’ve tried a few zero alcohol ones but few taste just right to me

  • Rusty Raven @aussie.zoneM
    6·
    3 months ago

    I really need to finish my assignment but I’m sitting here wasting time on my tablet instead. My brain really does not want to focus on this one.

    • DillyDaily@lemmy.world
      1·
      3 months ago

      There’s something in the air today, my brain is rotting from boredom but I can’t tear myself off the couch to do any one of the 200 things I should be doing, including some reports for work.

      I also can’t seem to find the motivation or even focus to play a video game, or get out the sewing machine (my favourite hobby).

      I’ve been doom scrolling for 3 hours. Even though I know it’s making me feel worse, and it would take me 2 minutes to put a yoga video on and grab my mat, and I would feel better…

      But apparently my brain just wants to sit here feeling guilty over all the things I should be doing but aren’t.

      Its my day off so I’ve half convinced myself it’s okay to still be in my pyjamas at almost 4pm, and do nothing today, not even cook…but I’m not enjoying it, it’s not relaxing. I’m paralysed by the complete lack of motivation, and self imposed shame over doing nothing.

      Im going to blame my ovaries for this unfocused, unmotivated mood.