• some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org
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    5 months ago

    “Not here,” she said in disbelief. “You hear about this everywhere else but not here.”

    Translation: When this was happening to other people’s children, it was fine. It’s not supposed to happen to mine.

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      5 months ago

      That’s quite uncharitable. We don’t know anything about the woman, much less that she thought school shootings elsewhere were “fine”.

      It’s pretty normal for people to mentally compartmentalize these types of shocking incidents as “things that happen in other places” rather than their own local community.

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        5 months ago

        No kidding. There’s no need to be so judgemental of that woman over such a short quote. People react to all sorts of events this way. Tornados, fires, kidnappings, etc.

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        This. And you don’t even necessarily realize you’re doing it, because I’m pretty sure it’s a coping mechanism in the face of how awful school shootings and mass shootings are - if it could happen in your community, you’d probably be a little bit more fearful just living your life.

        I’m from Orlando. I’ve been to Pulse a few times, but I’d moved to Minnesota before the shooting. A friend of mine was supposed to go that night, but one of her friends was running late so the whole group decided to reschedule. I wasn’t close to anyone who died. But events like these feel different when it’s your community, when it’s places you’ve been, rather than just another horrifying tragedy playing out on the news.

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      5 months ago

      Considering how rare school shootings are, they are damn near always “not here.” Doesn’t mean they can’t be there and that you shouldn’t take steps to prevent them, just that they are unlikely even if you do nothing.

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          In the grand scheme of things, yes. Despite the number one cause of death for children being gunshots, school shootings only make up a very small amount of those. There are a fuckton of schools and the probability that your local school having a shooting is pretty damn small.

          Don’t get me wrong, there are way more than there should be and certainly more than damn near any other country per capita but that does not mean they are common. We should still work to prevent them though because what is needed to prevent them has many other benefits.

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          Yes, they shouldn’t happen but they are very rare. The majority of them that are called shootings aren’t like Columbine, they’re usually gang or beefs between drug deals and just shit people acting like shit around a school.

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          It’s like a fatal car accident. You know it happens, but almost always in the news about another place.

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      5 months ago

      Or maybe it means she had heard about that elsewhere, but not where she lived. Why do you feel the need to make her seem like a villain in some way? She’s just a poor a woman who was fearing for her child’s life.