Truly a tragedy when people cannot live their lives because of fear.
This is the part I try so hard to communicate to bigots when they go on about how gayness is just in fashion these days.
I’ll pass them this article. That straight world they remember so fondly existed because they pushed men like this into the closet with their bigotry.
They’ll probably say something like, “Well they flaunt it and shove it in my face now.”
I wish the world would just be cool.
Terrible.
It does say he had a partner for 25 years before he passed away. I guess the solace is he did get to live his life, just not openly.
he had a partner for 25 years
“They were roommates”
What’s funny is my mom really does live with her best friend as housemates now that my dad is dead and it really is just a friendship and they hate it when people think they’re in a relationship. Especially when my mom mostly stays downstairs and her friend mostly stays upstairs and they generally just share the kitchen and dog walking duties.
my mom mostly stays downstairs and her friend mostly stays upstairs
So you’re saying your mom is a bottom? /s
I really don’t want to pry. And here’s why- Once, I said to my wife that it looks like people are giving someone a blowjob when they start to eat a banana and my mom walked into the room and said, “what’s so bad about that?” And she was in her 70s then. I definitely don’t want to know about my mother’s sexual proclivities now that she’s 82.
Ick.
Maybe she ws going to queue up some George Carlin jokes about ‘cocksucker’ changing from being an awesome person to a terrible person.
I think she was just saying, based on the novels she now writes, that she enjoys giving blowjobs.
I just didn’t need to know that about my mother.
Oh dear. She’s a smut novelist. Well hopefully you are supportive and add her books to your library. 😄
I would absolutely cringe if my mom brought that up but I think that is largely because that is not something my parents really ever talked about. My wife had the opposite experience where she and her mother were fine talking about it growing up.
My ex mom and best friend being living together for over 20 years and they are also just friends.
That was my takeaway too. That and “whoa, you can write your own obituary?”
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Just have to do it ahead of time!
Is that like a solid rule? I’m not sure how I’ll feel about everything after I die.
It pisses me of that these men and women have to hide and continue to live in fear and anxiety after giving so much to this country because a few fake christian self righteous snowflake zealots who never served a day in their useless lives have a personal problem that they cant come to terms with.
I was in for a long time (before and during the Don’t Ask Don’t Tell era) and was stationed with, and more importantly friends with quite a few mostly-secretly, semi-openly and a few “I’m gay and I fucking dare you to do anything about it” types and the only demographic (snowflakes) who seemed to have problems with it were/are the I woulda served but… (insert bullshit excuse here) “patriots”. I’ll take one gay vet over 100 super/false patriots any day.
Fair Winds And Following Seas from an old Destroyer Escort Sailor to you Colonel Ryan
Wow, reading that article, you really get a sense for what a positive impact he had on the world. Such a shame he couldn’t comfortably live the life he deserved.
I’m glad he finally got to speak his truth, even if it was in death. I hope his family members read that and do some serious self-reflection.
I have a family member who had to move back home in the mid 80’s, come out to their family (on a farm in rural NC), & ask for help because they had been diagnosed with HIV & couldn’t afford the medication.
Just the strength it took to return home, knowing the shame that was sure to follow, showed me I could come out to that same family.
Really hope this obit can help some of his family members accept themselves & find a better way forward.
A singer where I’m from did pretty much the same thing, it was an open secret in the industry but it’s only when he died that it was finally discussed that he was gay and had been with the same man for 25 years (and married him just a few days before passing).
Wasn’t that Barry Manilow?
Michel Louvain in Quebec (which is funny because he wrote songs that were mostly popular with women), but it must have happened many times.
