• Flying Squid@lemmy.world
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    I really don’t like comments like this. They imply that queer people are the cause of homophobia.

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      I don’t read it as that… To me it looks like being afraid of leaving the closet causes homophobia

      This is the same principle as small penis men buying large trucks… They are doubling down on the homophobia display to over compensate for their homosexuality

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            I think they so often are claimed to be. How many actually are? Have there been some? Yes. Do we actually know how many? Even a rough estimate?

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              I think they so often are claimed to be

              They portrait themselves as raging homophobics just to then pretend to be gay? I don’t follow

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                I think that other people often make the claim that homophobes are secretly gay and I’m asking if we actually know how many, even based on a rough estimate, that applies to. If not, it’s a spurious and rather disturbing claim.

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                  This is exactly how stereotypes work. And no, they should not be taking super seriously even if they do tend to come from some real life examples

                  Personally, I am not super concerned if claims against homophobes are spurious, they do not seem to mind claiming gay people are pedophiles in disguise for example

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                    But as I said, it suggests that queer people are the homophobes. That’s my issue. It lessens the bigotry issue if the implication is that cishet people aren’t the ones being homophobic.

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      Homophobia is the reason some queer people self hate so goddamn much they lash out at all queer people while the original homophobes cheer it on. Also, some people are just awful, terrible monsters regardless of their sexuality.

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        Sure, there are self-hating people of all sorts of marginalized groups, but queer people are the only ones who get regularly talked about as if the people who oppress them are also queer.

        You don’t hear about Muslims being oppressed by secret Muslims.

        I cannot provide evidence for this, obviously, but it would seem to me that most bigots are bigots because they’re bigoted, not because they’re secretly the thing they’re bigoted against.

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          Religion isn’t something intrinsic about a person. If you hate the fact that you’re a Muslim, you can opt out.

          You cannot opt out being queer.

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            Okay then, you don’t hear about white bigots being secretly light-skinned black people. Pick whatever group you want. Queer people are the only one I can think of where it’s regularly claimed that the people bigoted against them are themselves the people they are bigoted against.

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              Yeah, nobody says that people opposed to disability rights are secretly suffering from an invisible disability.

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              Nah it’s a tale as old as time, we used to call it “the one who smelt it dealt it” but the principle is the same. The most fervent and vocal are often just trying to cover their own asses.

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                Can you name another example where bigotry against a traditionally marginalized minority is virtually always claimed to be coming from that minority?

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          Sure, there are self-hating people of all sorts of marginalized groups, but queer people are the only ones who get regularly talked about as if the people who oppress them are also queer.

          Not true, pedophiles often fall in this category and there is even more evidence of this to justify correlation

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              Not at all… and looking at the rest of your comments I don’t really know what you are fishing for but I don’t want to play your game

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                I’m not “fishing for” anything. Please don’t make ridiculous accusations about me. If that isn’t what you meant, what did you mean?

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      They imply that queer people are the cause of homophobia.

      I don’t think it would be accurate to call someone like Ted Haggard or Marcus Bachmann or Jerry Falwell Jr “queer”, as they are deeply closeted and conformist presenting. That said, I do see the consequences of prior iterations of conversion therapy produce a group of incredibly violent and sadistic “ex” gay men.

      So I might say that violence against queer people has a cyclical effect and perpetuates homophobia, in the same way that violence against women perpetuates misogyny and violence against pocs perpetuate racism. Some of the people who have had their personalities systematically reshaped through physical and psychological abuse inherit the job of abusing the next generation. They are held up as symbols of the system’s success and granted special privilege on the condition they continue the cycle of violence on behalf of the originators of the system.

      But when you get behind the Ted Haggards and Marcus Bachmans and Falwell Jrs, you’ll routinely find patriarchs fixated on their genetic legacy, who see queer children as a threat to their continued line. The real root of this problem is the fixation on race science and genetic bloodlines. The extremely high opinion that Ronald Reagan or Dick Cheney or Mitt Romney or Donald Trump have of themselves and the desperate need they have for large families that will propagate their own genes leads to this ideological revulsion towards children who won’t also have large families.

      Its the blue blooded aristocrat’s need for racial purity that leads to homophobia. Brutalized ex-gay converts are simply their deputies, in the endless war on their own children and grandchildren in pursuit of even more offspring.