I like women. I like the shape and curves of the female body. I like boobs, I like asses, I like pretty vaginas. I also appreciate and am aroused by a nice cock. I’m however not otherwise attracted to the male body. I like femboys as long as they have a feminine-like shape and curves, as many of them do.
WTF is my sexual orientation?
I once read a personal ad - “single white female, 8 inch clit”
We have too many labels. You’re a human who knows what you like today. It’s ok if something totally different floats your boat tomorrow.
That is the best thing I’ve read all day. 10/10 personal ad
Totally agree. I’m not sure why everyone focuses so hard on determining how many letters there are in their alphabet. 5 years from now it might be totally diff. It would be so refreshing if people simply said “Here’s what floats my boat today”
I guess the + in LBGTQHA+ could be replaced with WFYB , for convenience.
Idk, sexual orientations are just labels we make up to make sense of the world.
“Femmesexual” sounds kind of cool though.
I think the term gynosexual already covers it. But yeah, if it’s pretty, fuck it. Labels are a useful shorthand but not always necessary.
For me “gyno” has connotations of biological sex/female genitalia because of its use in biology and gynacology etc.
So I picked femme because it’s more about gender presentation.
But everyone’s different. Whatever makes OP happy.
Also finsexual. They’re pretty much synonymous.
I guess you’re some flavor of bisexual as you are attracted to some men (based on the femboy remark) though you’ve got a distinct preference for femininity even in men. If you go scrolling through old Tumblr posts long enough you’ll probably find a term someone coined back in 2013 for your exact orientation… But, like, IDK man don’t overthink it. If anyone asks just say whatever feels right in that moment, straight/bi/pan/whatever.
And remember saying you identify with a particular orientation isn’t some huge commitment. Saying you’re bi (for instance) doesn’t mean you’re attracted to all men, and no reasonable person would expect that. We all have preferences within our orientation.
AITA?
No. You’re figuring it out. It’s okay to not have all the answers
Edit: dear learned and thoughtful internet friends, here “sexual” functions as a self-deprecating double entendre, the thinly veiled meaning of which is “attraction irrespective of sex or gender” or, in the common tongue, “colossal whore.”
So I am altering this comment for clarity. Pray I do not alter it any further.
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If anyone asks just say whatever feels right in that moment, straight/bi/pan/whatever.
Especially in mixed company, my go-to is *-sexual where the wildcard * is silent. Those who don’t know will hear a non-answer to a rude question, but your friends will recognize it as candor.
It also sidesteps the tiresome bi/pan distinction and avoids the least favorable option: “straight.”
Right, I’m not atheist but nor do I believe in the “god” of abrahamic religions, or the pantheons of others, nor that Buddha literally reincarnated; But I do believe there is some force or meaning behind existence. So I’m just “spiritual.” Sometimes a general label can work
Agreed, though to be clear, by this analogy I meant belief in all gods.
As long as, you know, they’re hot. In the scriptural sense of course.
Who cares what label people might put on it?
Just like what you like. It doesn’t need a label.
What you are today is not what you’ll be tomorrow. Let yourself be. You don’t owe explanations to anyone about what you like.
Hey I’ve got the same preferences as you. I just go with bisexual and call it a day.
I will second this ^
why would you be an asshole for being attracted to cock?
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Right? He could also be a pussy or a mouth!
Congrats! You’re human.
Too much futa hentai is my diagnosis.
Or maybe too little. Science will be necessary.
As if there could be such a thing!
You get out there and suck a few girl cocks. Only then will you know the truth of your desires. I mean how bad could it be? Personally wouldn’t worry about it. If the dude who’s cock you’re sucking thinks you’re not gay then I would trust him.
What incredibly enough hasn’t been brought up yet, is the distinction between gender preference and genital preference. In heteronormativity they’re assumed to be the same, but in reality they’re not. This way of thinking also lends itself to the flexibility you’re describing; note the word “preference”.
You’re bi, my dude. You just said you love vaginas and cock. Case closed.
Yeah, they’re bi and they have a type.
I personally struggled for a long time trying to find the right label for my gender and sexuality. In the end, the right label for both is “just me”. Whatever I’m attracted to is what I’m attracted to. Whatever I feel like on a certain day is what gender I am. Just me doing me things
The only thing I’m commenting on is the “AITA”:
If anything then only for asking that question - don’t be mean to yourself like that.
I understand your position. I feel the exact same way. I identify much like you, I am attracted to the feminine features not whatever label you have or what have been biologically created between your legs.
When I was younger I just told myself “nah I’m straight”, and somewhere realized that i might be what people called “bi-curious”. But after a while I realized I had no interest in masculinity or “regular” males.
Being able to detach social gender labels from biological genitalia and therefore further deepen my understanding and acceptance of trans and LGBTQ people helped me a lot with accepting myself and my preferences.
As for your question, it really doesn’t matter. What matters is that you know what you like. Who you decide to spend time with or engage in sexual relations with is up to the people involved and no one else. I ultimately decided to still just call myself straight. Is it entirely correct? Maybe not, but it sure is the easiest.
Enjoy life, hook up with a femboy, get pegged or have a one night stand with a 6,8 mega masculine dude. It’s up to you, the thing that matters is that you know what you enjoy.
Life is to short to put labels on dicks and vaginas. Just fuck it instead.
