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    Legalize prostitution and get rid of the stigma. It being illegal only hurts the women (mostly) in the long run. With legalization you could get rid of a lot of abuse and make it easy for these women to come forward if there is abuse. I think it would also make underage trafficking harder if prostitution was legalized.

    I think we’re a long way from that, but one can hope for society.

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      “Convicted prostitute” is not the condemnation the article-writer thinks it is… Work is work!

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          No but these absurd questions show up faster and faster as the government legitimizes sex work.

          And so do trafficked immigrants who are kidnapped and coerced into the sex work industry by people threatening to kill their family while using Facebook Live standing in front of that family’s home back in their country of birth.

          That shit has been happening for a decade. And it is why lots of the liberal western European countries have curtailed their red light districts.

          There is no way to save those people without destroying privacy.

          https://reddthat.com/post/8968028 - “European Parliament rejects mass scanning of private messages”

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            We have legalised sex work in my country.

            Don’t remember these questions ever coming up.

            The trafficking can also be dealt with, through means such as actually investigating workplaces and ensuring they’re compliant with workplace laws.

            Not to mention, people are already trafficked while it’s illegal as well, so you’re not helping the situation by making the victims criminals who will now be less likely to engage with police.

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              That’s because your country is not US and likely does not have significant fraction of religious population.

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            Governments can legalize sex work but they can’t legitimize it, because governments don’t dictate societal attitudes. (Well, they sort of can through propaganda, but they shouldn’t. A democratic government should reflect the attitudes of its people, not the other way around.)

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            There is no way to save those people without destroying privacy.

            I disagree. Legalizing prostitution and fighting the social stigma would prevent many of those crimes.

            If you criminalize a service that will always be in demand, you won’t kill the market - you’ll just turn it into an unregulated black market run by criminals, who are much less inhibited than legal employers to use any means at their disposal (even threats and violence) to maximize their profit.

            The exact same thing happened during the prohibition.

            But if you have a legalized market… using threats and violence to force people to perform i.e. call center work is much less common.

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        Probably not as that would be advertising sex work within an area frequented by minors. I bet it would fall under the same laws as consuming or selling pornography close to schools and parks.

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      We do not need to legalize it to get rid of the stigma. Spreading and calling out stories like this for the dreadful, inhumane, closeminded bullshit that they are is how we get rid of the stigma.

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            I think removing the stigma and changing the law are both worthy goals, and that one can facilitate the other, but I don’t think the stigma can ever be fully removed. Laws can be changed with a single vote, but cultural values never really go away; at best, they become fringe views, and even that usually takes a very long time.

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          Cheating on taxes is a crime, but in certain circles it’s nit stigmatized.

          The same goes for ignoring the speed limit in other circles.

          A desperate mother shoplifting to feed her child would probably get compassion from many.

          On a side note, it is also possible for something to be a crime and not be punished. It is a way for a society to condemn something, but acknowledge that is just necessary under certain conditions.

          (Some countries use this trick for contentious topics like abortion and, yes, prostitution.)

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            All your examples are things you say are stigmatized, just not in certain circles. In other words they’re actually counterexamples, unless you’re agreeing with me and I’m totally misleading your tone. If the goal is for prostitution to be destigmatized only in certain circles, then we’re already there. Mission accomplished!

            It is a way for a society to condemn something

            If there’s a difference between society condemning something and that something being stigmatized, I’m falling to see what it is.

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          Yes; smoking weed. Jaywalking. Drinking during prohibition.

          A crime is what the law says will be punished, but the law isn’t moral.

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            That has nothing to do with public perception which has everything to do with stigmatization.

            The fact that you listed things that have historically been highly stigmatised because of the law is bizarre.

            (Except jaywalking, not sure where that one is coming from)

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              Jay walking was originally a derogatory term for rural people in the ‘big city’ and supposedly not knowing how to navigate paved streets.

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                Yeah I guess I’m picturing people walking head on into traffic whereas it can also include simply crossing an empty street.

                Where I live the latter is fine but the former is illegal.

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                  It’s the exact opposite way around. Early car users were plowing their way through crowded streets, which were designed for and primarily used by human beings. The streets also had their fair shares of carts, horses, trolleys, etc., but they were primarily for people walking around.

                  The fledgling auto industry was under SERIOUS fire for the HUGE number of people getting killed by reckless, inattentive, unsafe drivers. Serious risk of cars being fully banned from many cities. So they ran a giant PR campaign to flip the blame. The issue wasn’t reckless drivers carelessly charging around crowded streets and killing people – it was actually the peoples’ fault for being in the streets (that had ALWAYS been theirs to be in previously and which were built for them by them).

                  Worked great. Streets rapidly became places people were not allowed to use – only cars were permitted, and nearly rent-free. A total hostile takeover.

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            Ah of those are/were stigmatized specifically because of legal status.

            What are you even taking about, my man.

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            The law usually reflects what people think is moral. Not all people of course, but a critical mass. Smoking weed is still widely considered immoral. Drinking was considered immoral by a lot of people when Prohibition started, and it still is by a smaller but still substantial number of people.

            Jaywalking is more complicated, because there was a deliberate campaign to stigmatize it. I can’t recall if it was made a crime to promote the stigma or in response to it, but a sigma was definitely involved.

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              But why was weed initially considered immoral? What did the aide to the president say about the “war on drugs”?

              Couldn’t possibly be ulterior motives, like the racism our country was founded upon. That couldn’t be right, right?

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        But, why? This feels about as effective of a strategy as ‘thoughts and prayers’…

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          Well yes, that’s a different issue. It should be legalized and regulated as currently there are almost no legal protections for workers.

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        That’s not how logic or reasoning works. They said sex work is work, they said literally nothing else about any other kind of work.

        Come on dude, that’s like the most boring fallacy ever.

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      Regardless of the fact that there’s no way many of her students will be mature enough to handle this information without being disruptive, there’s a difference between supporting life decisions and accepting them.

      Like the difference between fatphobia and supporting healthy lifestyles, right? One is cruelty, the other is not supporting bad habits.

      Same with prostitution, it’s one thing to not oppress sex workers, it’s another to tell kids to become sex workers. Hopefully she’s not doing that but is normalizing the profession really what you want around teenagers?

      No parent wants to find out their kid started turning tricks because Ms Smith seemed cool.

      Especially when her “Ways to Spot A Dangerous John” course wasn’t approved by the principal.

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        Active shooter drills? Super chill.

        Woman had sex? Mind blown and values changed forever!

        I wish you could see how you sound.

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          Some people view sex as intrinsically beyond the purely transactional, and for those people it’s immoral to treat sexual intercourse as a commodity. I’m somewhat undecided, but it does seem a bit like the final frontier of neoliberalism.

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            What a useless word soup. Sex can absolutely be transactional if it suits two consenting parties. Your world view being as narrow as a drinking straw isn’t a basis for how the rest of society chooses to live.

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            Yeah, before neoliberalism prostitution didn’t exist, so clearly it is good to victimize prostitutes, as that’s just sticking it to neoliberals, the ones who invented prostitution.

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            Do you think sex ed somehow cheapens sex? People understanding sex only makes it better for everyone in every way.

            There is nothing about sex ed that teaches anyone that sex is a commodity. My experience in public school was there was no morality involved whatsoever. It was very sterile and 100% about learning technical shit about how our bodies work. Invaluable information, I might add.

            Freaks like you who are obsessed with which genitals a child has, are incapable of separating the physiological aspects of sex from the emotional ones. Sex ed is not sexy, dude, it was awkward as fuck. If anything, it turned me off of sex.

            It’s like saying that learning about the chemical processes used to make meth in chemistry class is the same thing as smoking it.

            And I grew up in what many would consider a liberal area, especially in terms of our local public education.

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              I’m an advocate of facilitated discourse and was highlighting what causes such polarisation in attitudes towards sex work/workers. Since some people view it as fundamentally immoral, that’s a very difficult bridge to cross.

              Sex education is incredibly important and I’m amazed how bad it remains in many parts of the world. I’m unsure how or where children’s genitals come into this.

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        Especially when her “Ways to Spot A Dangerous John” course wasn’t approved by the principal.

        It’s always a sign that you have a great argument when you straight up make up facts.

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          Seriously. This is a human being we’re talking about, who’s now lost her livelihood, and will possibly need to resort to prostitution again to make a living because of it.

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            Sounds like she was escorting at the time which despite being prostitution in a trenchcoat it’s legal in Texas.

            Which is even more fucked because what she was doing was legal but still got fired.

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        You’re acting like she introduced herself to her students as a former prostitute. The kids never would have known if these asshole adults didn’t dig into her past like it mattered.

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    I paid for my teaching degree by working as a prostitute. Prostitutes aren’t extra horny degenerates or something, they’re just folks trying to survive. I’d probably be a better teacher if I could still do it, because I could cut back the hours at my second job 🤷‍♂️

    Seems like we hold teachers to higher standards than CEOs and politicians, for less money than a Walmart GM makes…

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      It’s almost like we should be paying you more… But… Nahhh, MuH tAxEs!!! Wahhhh!

      Sorry we all collectively suck so much :(

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      More like hold women to stricter standards than men.

      Men can and are celebrated for being absolute sluts. Hell, its actively encouraged in most spaces.

      Woman sleeps with more than 2 people and an inordinate amount of people will look down upon her and say all kinds of horrific things.

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    The fact that prostitition is illegal over there still baffles me. It’s just a job and if anyone knows about safe sex it’s someone who works a profession tied to it. If i wanted to learn about some hobby i’m sure i could learn more from a professional than some random guy.

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      I’m sure the misogynist gym teacher with the emotional aptitude of a 15 year old who’s partner has to drink themselves ready for the same missionary sex they’ve had for the past decade is a great teacher of sex-ed.

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        we were like 14 years old when dude said “well, today’s the day”. then he took a banana out of one drawer of his desk, and a condom out of another drawer. like they had always been there. like they belonged there. like the box his desk came in said “sturdy construction, faux wood grain paneling, and advanced banana and condom storage solutions.” he then took ten minutes to explain to us that condoms don’t work, and we shouldn’t trust them, and that only by not fucking will we be safe from wrath, rack and ruin. He then tried to put the condom on the banana, struggled with it being upside down for a bit, and BROKE THE FUCKING BANANA.

        This was the state of sex ed in the wilds of Pennsylvania circa 2000

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          I mean, just my personal opinion, but abstinence does need to be taught as a co-curriculum with a large portion of relationship education (particularly what a good relationship is/has, and what a bad relationship looks like and how to leave it), and stoicism and some other philosophies that demonstrate how forgoing pleasure (for some things, for periods of time) can lead to better outcomes. I don’t want my kid thinking they need to refrain from sex because it’s somehow immoral, but I also don’t want them to jump into every ‘relationship’ that comes their way in school and start having sex with someone who is just using them for their genitals.

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            I never said it shouldn’t be taught at all, the problem is the people that want only abstinence taught. I don’t necessarily believe that teaching stoicism to kids in high-school is going to do much. It’d be best taught around the age of 21 when the brain is closer to finishing development and the individual has better emotional control overall. Teaching about relationships will, as it always has been, ineffective because people don’t want to hear it from someone else, they want to experience it. And they will hold lofty expectations regardless. It’s good to demonstrate and show what abusive relationships look like, but beyond that people won’t listen. There’s a reason that it seems like the amount of abusive and shitty relationships never seems to change.

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        Yeah, or if you’re in [MY LOCATION] the gym teacher who decides to show his junk to his [SPORTSBALL TEAM] and gets nominated to our hall of fame….

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      Christianity, racism and corruption. Politicians love to target poor people, and prostitution is a job that often draws in the desperate. Conveniently, POC make up a large percentage of the impoverished population.

      Sex trafficking is out of control in the US, yet it’s never talked about by politicians. Even with Epstein, the focus was on how terrible he and his accomplices were, not on the actual problem. Not the thousands of other women and girls who are still being trafficked in the US. Legalizing prostitution is pretty much the only answer.

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      I think to just put it on the level of any other basic profession is naive, and I think you know that. I’m on board, but to turn a blind eye to human trafficking is foolish. And to suggest legalizing prostitution would all of a sudden eliminate human trafficking is just as foolish.

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    I am against prostitution being illegal. I am also against slut shaming. And I am even more against ruining someones future opportunities of ANY kind for having been in the sex work business. But befor you let anyone teach: Make sure they are a teacher. If you want to teach biology (which sex ed is a part of) to children, you better have a degree in biology and teaching, ffs.

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        I AM a teacher. I teach English as a foreign language and Computer Science (just CS right now). I have a gross income of slightly more than 60k a year (59k €). That’s about 3.850€ net a month after health insurance and taxes. I also have a not too shabby pension guaranteed as long as I don’t quit the job. That’s included in “my package”. Also I am tenured. I can only be fired for gross neglect or having an affair with a (minor) student, bribery or things of that nature.

        The “catch” (some say advantage): That’s in Germany, not in Retardistan.

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      If you want highly skilled teachers, expect to pay wages and compensations for highly skilled workers.

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      You had me until the sex work part. I’m sorry, but that DQs you for anything that requires a public image.

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            So what’s the solution? Thousands of years of making it illegal to some degree or another does not seem to work.

            Or perhaps sex is deeply ingrained in the human psyche just as much as food is, and we shouldn’t consider that a problem?

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              Murder has been there since the beginning and making it illegal doesn’t seem to work. Should we just make legal? I think prostitution only plays into women being sexual objects for men.

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                  What even was that persons comparison. I feel like I’m taking crazy pills sometimes. How are sex and murder even slightly related? I’m sure if I was 14 again I’d say something like “they give and take life, they are two sides of the same coin” or something like that that totally misses the fucking point.

                  ^(I’m replying to you because last time replied to one of these people directly I was botted for like a week. )

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                …if you go to Pahrump, NV where prostitution is legal, those women are independent contractors who set their own prices and can turn anyone that they don’t feel comfortable with serving away. Additionally, clients must use protection AND the women have police on a panic button if anyone gets out of hand.

                Compare that to the women who prostitute themselves illegally and are subjected to all the dangers of rape, abuse, and murder.

                I used to think like you. While I was researching a paper I was writing (arguing against the legalization of prostitution mind you), I ended up at a completely different conclusion. My conclusion did not support my thesis and I wrote it that way.

                Open your mind a bit, and see that legalization protects EVERYONE (except prudes I guess)

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                  the women have police on a panic button if anyone gets out of hand.

                  Wonder what the response time is on that button press? Would have thought they would employ bouncers on-site to handle that kind of thing.

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      My first thought was well. “Father expelled as PE teacher after being exposed as convicted marathon runner.”

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      The reason why it’s illegalized in the first place is that when a society has many whores it’s symbolic of people selling their children into the sex trade out of poverty and usually a marker of a failing economy. See Mexico. Prostitution on the rise usually coincides with falls in a variety of economic growth vectors

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    So what’s the problem? They’re blaming her for keeping up-to-date on topics she was teaching.

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    Per the Post, parents discovered several Lola Brea profiles, and noted her to be an expensive and “well-reviewed” escort, who warned that no-show clients could face a penalty of up to $3,000.

    Sounds like teaching was her side-gig…

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      She probably had the best stocked classroom in the entire district.

      The real crime here is what we pay our educators.

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      Whichever students had her to be their sex ed teacher must have been incredibly blessed beyond words.