• Poplar?@lemmy.world
        3·
        2 months ago

        Doubt it. People would still post revenge porn, unconsensually filmed stuff or leak e.g nudes that were meant for each other and not the public. Because the motivation there is not money, it would be to humiliate, for example.

      • Clinicallydepressedpoochie@lemmy.world
        1·
        2 months ago

        Exploitation takes place when the money isn’t paid directly to the workers. Anyone who cares to consume porn responsibly should consider this before they go to free hosting sites that make money from ad revenue and shady services.

      • Too Ren@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
        01·
        2 months ago

        i post porn for free but have been paid for it, those are the only times I’ve been uncomfortable

        • wreckedcarzz@lemmy.worldEnglish
          1·
          2 months ago

          But Jennifer, also on the conference call, is always rooting for me 110%. We should all be more like Jennifer.

      • stoicmaverick@lemmy.world
        1·
        2 months ago

        Porn is the only reason I am still married. After our second kid, my wife’s already low sex drive dropped to asexual. She is a wonderful mother, but she is either willfully or ignorantly oblivious to any romantic advance. I get, on average, about one fully clothed, under-the-covers hand job every 6 months or so that’s so unenthusiastic that I am reminded why I stopped trying to get her to do it. I am sexually starving. The only thing I want in the world right now is to feel the warm touch of someone who actually wants to touch me again, but I’d rather die, lonely, but married to her than let my kids grow up in a broken home…

        So ya, I jerk off to porn after she goes to bed.

        • Hacksaw@lemmy.ca
          01·
          2 months ago

          It’s better to show your kids what is like to be happy and have your needs met than to show them being miserable and setling. Especially on their behalf.

          Which would you rather for your kids?

          Which are you showing your kids by example?

          • Emerald@lemmy.world
            0·
            2 months ago

            Ah, yes. Let me tell the children that I’m getting a divorce cause wifey won’t fuck me

                • Clinicallydepressedpoochie@lemmy.world
                  0·
                  2 months ago

                  Cause it’s condescending to explain to a person you don’t know who has been in a serious relationship with a person you dont know for who knows how long that you can tap it if you’re just an extra good boy.

              • Emerald@lemmy.world
                11·
                2 months ago

                Except it seems from the comment that they are still in a loving relationship, just not much of a sexual one.

          • stoicmaverick@lemmy.world
            01·
            2 months ago

            Do you have kids? I used to hate when people would ask me that question before I had kids, because it seems to imply that having them places your opinion on a higher tier. Now that I do, I try and avoid it as much as possible for that reason, but I do understand that parenting is one of the theaters where theory space, and optimal practice, can be very different. The fact is, they never have to know, at least until they’re old enough to understand. They don’t have to know that Dad is sad when he’s alone with Mom, because we still have fun and laugh as a family when they are present. The lesson that I’m teaching them by example, is that it is better to have one bedroom than two, then to have to decide whether they want to live with mom or dad most of the time, that even though Mom and Dad civilly argue sometimes, we can still be a family, and be happy most of the time, rather than give up on a promise made before they were born because of factors they can’t possibly understand yet.

            • Hacksaw@lemmy.ca
              02·
              2 months ago

              Yeah. I had a dad that didn’t get laid too. Sex is in the bottom layers of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, then intimacy is up higher as well. If you’re not getting these things you’re not going to be able to hide them. Your kids won’t know why until they’re much older WHY your not happy, but that is a sadness of the soul that nothing can hide.

              You ever see one of your friends the day after they get laid and you just know. That’s a kind of joy from having your needs met that you can’t fake.

              You’re teaching your kids it’s OK with someone who doesn’t meet your needs. It’s not.

              Be with someone who makes you happy. Let your wife do the same. Show your kids what a happy marriage and happy parents look like so they can model their relationships that way. Don’t continue the cycle.

    • CrowAirbrush@lemmy.world
      0·
      2 months ago

      I just pirate that porn, heck many of them charge for their OF while they post the same shit that’s on their insta and when they do release something worthwhile you gotta dunk another 50 to get it.

      While already spending 8 bucks a month just to see a mirror of their instagram.

      Just sell the damn video for 58 bucks and leave out the bullshit part of the deal. They’re just playing into addiction related habits to get you to spend more.

      • CosmicTurtle0@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
        3·
        2 months ago

        I had a very interesting interaction with an OF model. I made an account years ago to support a friend who was starting out there. I logged in a few days ago to see another model that had advertised on a different platform.

        I get a notification of a message and it’s one of the models where they have a free OF but everything is PPV.

        I figured it was a bot and just ignored it but then got another notification. I figured I could just reply and say hi.

        The model in question is a porn star (i.e. has videos on major production companies) but also has an OF. I subscribed because she’s totally my type.

        Anyway I’m having this back and forth with her and I’m wondering “this isn’t a bot but…is it really her?”

        And I got the sense that these professional models hire people to chat with people on their OF. That’s nuts! I get that porn sells a fantasy. That’s a given but I didn’t expect that they would hire people to pretend to be them.

        • KellysNokia@lemmy.world
          3·
          2 months ago

          I had a similar experience but then I got a little uncomfortable because she started sending me weird cryptic messages

          Stuff like “The operation failed with an error. [429] You have reached your OpenAI API limit. Please check your plan and billing details”

        • camr_on@lemmy.world
          3·
          2 months ago

          there’s a massive industry of hiring people to pretend to be models, because there’s huge money in personal experiences / personally tailored experiences. I listened to a podcast where they interviewed someone from the Phillipines who worked in the equivalent of a call center that was made up of people sexting in OF dms. A lot of people wouldn’t pay for like pornhub premium or something like that, but would pay for “custom” content and “real” attention from their favorite performer

        • Meron35@lemmy.world
          1·
          2 months ago

          Drag queen Amanda Tori Meating has gone on the record about her day job as an OnlyFans ghostwriter. There’s an entire industry of talent agencies that hire minimum wage gig workers to pretend to be the model you are paying $x per month to interact with.

    • UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.worldEnglish
      3·
      2 months ago

      That’s arguably why the current crop of porn is so heavily weighted to the incest fantasy shit.

      The Hapsburgs are driving the market for new material.

  • Modern_medicine_isnt@lemmy.world
    1·
    2 months ago

    I’d pay if there was a more discrete way of doing it. Overall, you should pay for the things you want. Or they will go away (well probably not porn). But like local businesses and such.

  • Steal Wool@lemm.eeEnglish
    1·
    2 months ago

    I feel like this is implying that there’s just “free porn” out there “somewhere” on the internet

  • jdf038@mander.xyz
    1·
    2 months ago

    Those interested: Erika Lust is a fun site. It has more ethical porn that you don’t have to wade through weird crap for. Well worth it IMHO

  • Axiochus@lemm.ee
    0·
    2 months ago

    Somewhat of a dumb take. There’s nothing free on the internet. So you either pay for it directly or by giving away your data or participating in some form of scheme.

    • Tartas1995@discuss.tchncs.de
      2·
      2 months ago

      Also imagine paying a creator of the media that you consume and not a platform which scams an agency which scams the creator.

      How horrible…

      Honestly people are fucking weird. What is wrong with actually supporting the creator?